Jealousy and envy are words that most of us would only admit to jokingly. And I don’t know about you but it’s the worst feeling yet. I hate feeling jealous of anything or anyone. So here are a few tips that I’ve come up with and others have shared with me to overcome those negative feeling and move on with your life.
- Know your strengths. Everyone is different and it’s easy to get caught up in the great things people around you is doing. But your good at something too and you could miss out on opportunities to use your talents and strengths by focusing on others.
- Everyone’s journey is different. This is something I hear a lot and sometimes hearing it is annoying. But it’s still good advice. I know people who are my age walking in to their careers and it’s frustrating that I’m not there yet. But there’s always going to be someone around that looks more successful than you. The key is to know yeah they may be doing good right now but your time to shine is coming it’s just down the road a bit.
- Complement the person. This is where we get down to the deep stuff. It’s easier to talk bad about someone who’s doing good in life. And sometimes those people deserve it. But taking bad only makes you feel worse about yourself. So to fix that give the other person a complement especially if you consider that person a friend. If you don’t actually know the person well enough to talk to them then if they cross your mind instead of thinking negatively about them try thinking highly of them.
- Complement yourself. It’s healthy to feel proud about something you’ve accomplished. Even the little things can make you feel better. If you cleaned your room, or actually found matching socks, or you put your kid in real clothes instead of p.js for the first time in the week. Whatever it is don’t be afraid to pat yourself on the back every once in a while.
- Pray for them. Last and final tip. If you pray, add them to your prayer list. This will alleviate the anger that comes with jealousy and help you see them as a person that’s possibly struggling too.
I’m an aspiring cognitive therapist that currently works as a child care provider.