We are complicated creatures that try to simplify our complexity too much. It’s important to find a balance within all the extremes that everyone imposes. It’s the constant battle between the two-sided story while missing the full story.
Health is approached this way. You need to diet more or workout more. Or this new diet works better than that one. Relationships and mental health are too. I’m not saying that the ideas and extremes people have about these topics aren’t true, because some of them are. And some of them are helpful.
But we all must come to grips with the idea that we are so complicated that all the parts that make us who we are don’t always agree. There’s a part of us that wants to be fit while the other part wants donuts and ice cream. Part of your life becomes unhealthy when you give in to one part of your self more than the other.
Balancing your wants and needs is where healthy lives. This is true for mental health as well. It’s important to have calm days where you can relax and take a load off, entertainment and fun is good for you. But if that’s all you do is relax everyday, the balance is messed up and it’s no longer healthy. It’s alright to have days where your there for other as despite the kind of day your having. It’s alright to push yourself through your lack of motivation and say today my depression isn’t going to win. But again if you don’t sometimes be gentle with yourself as well as push yourself the balance is ruined.
I feel like people always choose one or the other. It’s either I’m going to feel sorry for my self forever or I’m going to pretend nothing is ever wrong. Both are extremes and extremes are usually unhealthy. We all need to have days where we push through and get things done and feel proud for being awesome. But we also need days where the emotions run out, the dams break and our thoughts are exposed. Days where we look our demons in the face and know they’re there and know that today we can’t fight it. Not everyday, not all the time, but sometimes we need those days. You can’t be both all the time. But you do have to let all parts of your self show every now and then. Because knowing yourself is healthy and healthy is balance.
I’m an aspiring cognitive therapist that currently works as a child care provider.